Breaking the Silence: Why We Still Need to Talk About Suicide

Written By Alicia Richter

As we walk into this holiday season, I’m reminded of everything this season represents: a time for change, reflection, and turning inward. September, as many of us know, is Suicide Prevention Month. Though this blog launches in October and I missed the September deadline (I will get better, I promise), I still want to talk about this incredibly important issue. Because, honestly, it can’t wait.

This past September, the National Alliance on Mental Illness (NAMI) encouraged us to “Start the conversation. Be the difference.” I find that theme both powerful and ironic. Many suicide prevention efforts begin with a moment of silence, a pause to remember those we’ve lost, and while I understand and respect that tradition, I also personally believe that silence is part of the problem.

As someone who’s experienced the impact of suicide both personally and professionally through my own journey and in crisis centers, rehabilitation programs, and therapy rooms, I’ve come to believe that silence is the enemy. We lose people because the subject is uncomfortable. Because it’s easier to avoid it. Because even professionals sometimes shy away from saying the word.

"Silence is the enemy."

The Numbers Speak Loudly: Even If We Don't

According to the CDC:

  • Every 11 minutes, someone dies by suicide.

  • In 2023 alone, more than 49,000 lives were lost.

  • An estimated 12.8 million adults seriously considered suicide.

  • 3.7 million made a plan.

  • 1.5 million attempted.

These numbers aren’t just statistics; they’re people, friends, coworkers, family, you, and me. One is too many.

 

Why Aren’t We Talking About It?

In my work, I’ve encountered many newly trained counselors who worry, “If I bring it up, what if I give them the idea?” But here's the truth: talking about suicide does not plant the seeds, it opens the door. Ignoring it doesn't protect people; it isolates them.

I’ve seen it too many times. Hospitals, clinics, crisis centers – places where the topic should be safe – still treat it like taboo. This avoidance keeps people suffering in silence. It sends the message: “Don’t bring this here.”

We must do better.

 

3 Practical Ways to Make a Difference

1. Mutualism in relationships

Start checking in with people. Ask your friends, coworkers, and loved ones how they’re really doing. Share your own struggles. This builds trust and safe spaces where vulnerability isn’t feared; it’s respected.

2. Know your history and let others know it, too

If you’ve struggled with mental health or suicidal thoughts, let a few trusted people in your history. When people know your story, they can help spot when something’s wrong and show up for you. If someone in your life has that history, support them with compassion, not fear.

3. Stop letting fear silence you

We must stop tiptoeing around suicide. If something feels off, a change in someone’s mood, appearance, or habits, say something. Compassion isn’t invasive. Ask. Connect. Be human.

"Compassion isn’t invasive."

What We Do Differently at Novus Psychotherapy

Here at Novus, we don’t shy away from the hard conversations. Our clinicians are trained in crisis stabilization and trauma-informed care. We walk beside our clients through the darkest times, not away from them. We practice with honesty, integrity, and compassion.

Whether it’s you or a loved one facing these struggles, we want you to know you’re not alone. We’re here to support you, not just during awareness months, but every single day.

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👉 If you or someone you know is struggling with suicidal thoughts or ideation please reach out, by calling 988 or schedule a session with one of our very talented therapists.

Let’s stop letting silence win. Let’s talk about it.

Because your voice matters.
Because their life matters.
Because one every 11 minutes is far too many.

 

Written by Michael Richter, M.A. LPC, NCC, CCTP, EMDR, Therapist and Co-Founder at Novus Psychotherapy & Counseling Center

Alicia Richter